Monday, June 22, 2009 | All about love...

Dr. Wong Yinn Ong

21st June 2009 (Sunday)

Falling in love

Question: What is the most potent force that attracts a man?

Answer: A woman! (Vice versa works the same way too.)


Love is kinda scientific really. At the back of our brain is the brain stem. This brain stam is actually the part of the brain that controls our most fundamental feelings and actions! (E.g Eating when hungry, sleeping when tired etc etc...)

The other subsequent 2 parts of brain deal with our more complex feelings like regret and conscience. But our neurons actually go through the Brain stem before anything else! So our first feeling is always the fundamental ones before our thinking starts to kick in. (:

Conclusion: We are FEELING creatures that THINK! (not the other way round... :P)



So Why? Why? Why? Why do we have these feelings of love,crush or lust towards another person?

Its because of hormones called Oxytocin. Its the chemicals released from our bodies when we go "High". And how Oxytocin in released varies from person to person.

Now we come to the question: Why do people "fall out of love" after some time?

You see people divorcing or breaking up but what causes the whole relationship to build up/crumble is something called 'Roleplaying'. Roleplaying is what all couples are experiencing from their partners. (e.g pulling the chair out for the girl to sit, not digging one's nose in front of boyfriend etc etc...)

So actually doing these things actually increases oxytocin levels for the oppostie sex. Now the problem comes AFTER marriage or AFTER couples have been with each other for a long time. This is where couples see the "other side" of their partners.

Its when roleplaying slips out of the relationship (the guy doesn't pull the chair out for the girl anymore or the girl starts digging her nose infront of her boyfriend) that couples start to experience "falling out" of love.

Therefore, the more roleplaying there is in a relationship, the harder it is to maintain it.

Lesson learnt: Always be yourself. Don't go all the way to make sure your date has a good impression of you. If what you're doing is NOT you, please for goodness sake don't do it if you can't maintain that for the rest of your life.

CAUTION: I'm not saying that if you usually dig your nose, you should do it. You know what i mean...

Here's a few tips on how fiance's and married couples should behave to each other. longstanding couples can do the same (:

Husband to wife:

Wife to husband:

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